Having said that, I still chose the i3 after leasing a Leaf and extensively test driven the Volt/Tesla/Ford EV cars (over 100 miles on Teslas, 50+ on Volt). I agree that the Volt is a solid car, but for me, the materials and interior look/feel were not appealing. My commute is city/suburbs - typically under 50 miles total daily. I've commuted in a Mini Cooper and compared to that the 19" i3 is a limousine. The slightly jarring ride is offset by the acceleration, interior design, and "zen" of the i3. They may not matter as much to you.
The Leaf felt like a low end car dressed up with batteries - which is what it really is: a Versa donor car. The Volt is several steps above that, but not quite satisfying - at least for me. The Tesla is a different car entirely - one that I'm sure you'd enjoy, but at a very high price point. I also didn't fit the Tesla - I sit too low in the car and the back seats are even lower. I also found the range choices lacking - 150 miles is all I'd need - the base car has more than that at a higher cost. If I wanted it to replace my wife's 335d I'd want greater than 285 mile range - and that's not available.
For now I chose the i3 - still not the perfect EV, but for my needs it has a very soothing interior, high quality materials, state of the current art features,and on balance the least number of drawbacks versus the competition. The lease deals are very attractive. I chose 2 years and by then we'll have more choices.
I also suggest something different -a VW Passat TDI which I owned prior to the i3. I bought a 6 speed manual and found it to provide a great highway ride, plenty of room, and all of the torque I could handle. Highway mileage reached 50-53 MPG on cruise control at 70 MPH. I even took it to Virginia International Raceway and a friend reached 106 MPH top speed with everything stock on the car (top speed is manufacturer listed at 113). Lap times were in the 2:40 range for the full course - that's a lot of fun for not much money. Yes, I know it's not an EV, but your driving pattern isn't really ideal for the Volt either. You're running the ICE quite a bit. Why not consider a car that may be better suited to your driving needs while duplicating what you like about the 335d? VW also has an aggressive lease option - it's worth a look. After all, you did ask for options in your post!
Feel free to PM me if you'd like to chat.