IMHO, the average American driver is lousy compared to some places in the world that actually require people to both know the rules of the road and to exhibit skills before they can get a driver's license. The driver's tests in the USA are a joke. Throw in the attitude exhibited by way too many people that they don't have to follow the rules, and you set yourself up for dissatisfaction. Today's cars have all of these safety features in them because people do not take driving as their first priority when in the car what with the number of people you see shaving, putting on makeup, talking or texting on their phones, and just plain not paying attention. FWIW, a manual transmission vehicle in a lower gear when you let off on the gas can be quite a handful when the roads are icy, too. Millions of them out there, although fewer probably in the USA than elsewhere, but people have been driving them safely for over a century. If you're paying attention to following distances and lights and stop signs, you have plenty of space to slow down before there's a problem. Way too many people are tailgating, which gives you no time to react. How many people do you see that only wait to slow down for a red light until just before it becomes a panic stop? Good driving is a skill that takes practice, and understanding the vehicle and its capabilities. Put the right tires on it, and drive sensibly, and it's not an issue if you do. That the i3 may take a little more skill than some others, so what? Personally, after 3 winters, and going on the fourth, I've not had an issue, and NH has gotten a LOT of snow in that time - one year, over 100-inches.
For people that don't get snow often, it doesn't matter if it's an i3 or something else, those first few snowfalls of the season, and there are a lot more accidents because people are not paying attention and have to relearn (if they ever knew!) how to drive in snow. It's probably best on any car to avoid those days if you can, or wait until later, after the bulk of the traffic has left and the roads can be cleaned up a bit more. Suggestion, until you become comfortable, extend the following distance to at least twice what you would have in normal times until you relearn and sharpen your skills. Doesn't matter what car you have...if you drive it the same way in summer and winter, when winter arrives along with bad weather, you're setting yourself up for problems.
One of the software changes BMW made over the life of my 2014 vehicle was to delay and soften how the regen is applied. Long ago, they reduced the amount available (which I didn't have any problems with, even in winter). Remember, you can adjust the amount of regen with your foot, and if you have a safe following distance, you can slow down without issues.